GAS Station Holla

It’s  been a while sense my last post but I’m happy to say I’m back.

I have a story to tell that I’m sure happens often hopefully not just to me but to many of you as well. Picture it:

I’m at the gas station minding my own business pumping my gas and a guy pulls up and say “will you pay for my gas” I laugh as he is walking away to go pay. He came back, I’m just about finished and he says “you have a beautiful smile” I’m thinking to myself “Oh God not again” I say thank you and begin walking around my car to leave and he says “Well I guess your boyfriend tells you that everyday” and in my honest stupidity I say, I don’t have a boyfriend ‘my bad’ so this opened the door for this question: “So how can a guy like myself get to know you better” I tell him our like that I’m doin me right now, focused on my career not really interested in a relationship. He pulls out his card and says “well if you change your mind give me a call.’

THE END

Okay so you may be saying “Lady B why didn’t you give dude a chance?” I know he didn’t come at me with “hey there Shorty” or the popular “Psst… Hey lil mama” but please let me now describe, let’s call him Mister. He had to be in his mid to late 40’s a little chubby (don’t get me wrong I’m not pickin on Mister’s weight, it’s all in how a person carries themselves). He was wearing faded army fatigue pants with a white shirt that had faded blue sleeves, some dirty faded sneakers, a faded blue baseball type cap and to top it off he had one gold tooth in the front of his mouth.

Okay so here is my problem yes I know many times us women pre judge and we don’t know he could be a good man but umm… Not trying to sound arrogant, but are not first impressions everything? Don’t we put our best foot forward when we see someone we may be interested in? I mean yeah we at the gas station and no, you didn’t expect to meet anyone, but would you at least say “I’m sorry for the way I look I normally don’t look this way I just got off work or my profession keeps me messy.” I don’t know maybe it’s just me, maybe my standards are too high LOL! No but really, ladies I think we owe it to the single men in our live (i.e., little brothers, friends, uncles etc.) to prompt them on approaching a woman in different situations let them know what we don’t like and fine offensive. We as well could learn a thing or two from them as well.

I don’t know it’s something about that gas station no matter where I go I’m always getting hit on my older men, sometimes I want to say how do you know I’m not underage, or don’t you have a kid or granddaughter my age, but now a days “age ain’t nothing but a number” I guess????

Well I hope you enjoyed my gas station “love” story. Let’s help the single men in our lives and in turn educate ourselves. Though we have standards, do we sometimes allow them to sabotage a good thing? Hmm… But on the other hand don’t settle because you feel this is your last chance. This is where we must discern and ask God for direction, wait your season will come.

These are just my Thoughts
                                                                  
                                                                                 Blessings!
                                                                                  ~ Lady B

                                                                                    

Single VS. Work & Family

Whats so bad about starting (wanting) a Family? I just started a new job and as I look around I see the veraity of women to the limited amount of men. I also see the vast majority of young women vs middle age to older women. All of our backgrounds are different there are women who have been married for years, have children and grandchildren, women who are building their families, and single mothers, then there are those of us who are single.

I am often asked first how old I am, and when I do say my age people gasp because I look so young, the next question is if I have children, and when I say No the response is : "Good! live your life, children will hold you back and men these days are no good, if you find a man don't settle".

Hmmmm, intresting and here I was thinking how much I wanted children and to start building a family, O & Trust Lady B settles for NO man that department is covered.

So here I am thinking to myself maybe some women started early having children and didn't get to do the things they wanted so they were giving me advice.....I think?

As a single woman I value the opinions of those who are married, divorced, those who have been left to hold down the fort, and those who just realized "Dag you my baby daddy, I'd rather do it alone". In my opinion, as long as you put your mind to it ALL things are possible with or without a family.

Whatever position you may be in it's all under God's control, life and children are a blessing and both can be overwhelming at times. I guess the moral of this story is Be Encouraged, Speak over your life. As for me I Know I can do it all, I will have what God allows me to have, guess I just answered my own question.

 These are just my thoughts!

"For as  man thinketh in his heart so is he" Proverbs 23:7

     

                                        Blessings!

                             ~Lady B

                               

Opening Statement

Standards are boundaries that we live by. Like the clothes in our closets our standards represent how we want people to see us and treat us. For years women have been subjected to the standards of society alone (what jobs we could have, what is considered beauitful etc). In this new era though these ideas have not seemed to change much, we have. Now we are accepting ourselves, we have the option to be more and expect more out of life, so why is it that we are told that what we want is a "Fairy Tale Life", I'm just sayin why can't I have my "Fairy Tale Life", Isn't it mine?

Ladies don't think to much into this I'm not just talking about a man telling you, that you expect to much, I'm referring more towards our goals to become CEO's, Entrepreneur's, and yes expecting Mr. Right (I will delve into that another time).

I think of myself as a woman of high standard, not arrogant, but I Love Me! I have priorities and I have boundaries for who I let come into my life, and the activities I choose to do.

This is just a thought among the many I will have, I would love to hear your comments. You're entitled to your own opinions, but if you don't have anything nice to say....The Bible says Bridle your tongue. Feel free to visit other blogs.  

                                                                                   Blessings!
                                                                                    Lady B